Wendella Wray

My name is Dr. Wendella Wray a.k.a. Dr. Wendy Wray and I am a marriage and family therapist, license # LMFT 108964. I specialize in creating healthy relationships and promoting positive behavioral patterns to create systemic change. I successfully work with clients who have a loss of purpose and/or experience high levels of stress, anxiety, depression, and have unresolved trauma. With the right tools and coping skills, you can overcome anything. Do you want to focus on your relationship wellness and let go of the past? Are you ready to develop healthy relationships and communicate effectively to better manage conflict and be heard without letting negative thoughts and emotions overpower you? Are you ready to live your best life? If your answer is yes to any of these questions, I am here for you!

My approach

As a client-centered based therapist, I tailor my approach to fit the needs of each client. I use an attachment-based lens to view all situations. Evidence-based techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) are utilized to help you to determine any cognitive distortions that may impact you and help you to better manage your emotions and life issues. I use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also known as Tapping, for anxiety, unresolved trauma, and to help shift your thinking in a positive way. A narrative approach helps you to rewrite your story to view the past or present circumstances differently and better manage your daily view on life. I also use EMDR techniques for those who are severely stuck. My strength-based approach helps clients to leave every session feeling valued, affirmed, and hopeful. My own evidence-based holistic approach helps you to align in mind, body, and soul. Incorporating a healthy belief system and spirituality can help you to find deeper meaning, purpose and live your best life.

My focus

I work with clients who have a desire to overcome anxiety, grief and loss, ADHD, depression, PTSD, childhood/adult trauma and deal with life transitions. If you have a desire to increase your self-confidence and motivation and gain the right tools and coping skills to overcome the past, reach out to me today to live your best life. I am here to support you. I want you to have a new start, learn how to break negative generational relational or thought patterns that hold you back, set boundaries and take your life back. I help you to create new healthy habits and promote self-love to be healthy and attract healthy relationships.

My communication style

My motto is "Feeling Safe is the Key to Healthy Relationships." I offer a safe space to share your innermost feelings and be vulnerable without judgment. I help you to gain the right tools to find peace in any storm. As we rewrite your story together, you will be able to let go of the past, become an effective communicator, manage conflict, and have your voice heard. You will become the best version of yourself and live your best life. In working together, you will develop a positive mindset to overcome negative patterns to fulfill your life dreams and goals. I am here to support you, value you and honor you.

My journey to mental healthcare

I have been intrigued by what makes some families healthy and resilient ever since I can remember. My passion grew over the years. My entire life has been a pursuit to determine the secret to healthy individuals and families. I wanted to know how to break negative generational patterns and harmful behaviors. This began my educational and personal journey. My desire is to help you to develop the necessary tools to thrive starting with you. I strongly believe that with the right support, knowledge, and emotional intelligence we can overcome anything. We should all strive to be healthy in mind, body, and soul and live a purpose-driven life filled with love, joy, peace and gratitude.

My goals for you

After exploring the challenges that you face, we will work together to create customized goals that are achievable. We can decide together which goals we should prioritize, and we will commit to working on goals each week to gain results.

My first session with you

Clients should expect a warm smile with a welcoming greeting. You will feel comfortable knowing that you are with a safe person who will take this journey with you without judgement. I will explain every step of the process and help guide you with care and respect. I can't wait to meet you!