Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction. This isn’t a mental health condition or diagnosis.
This aromantic spectrum quiz can provide a helpful framework to better understand yourself.
If you’re interested in exploring more about your identity, a therapist can support you.
If you don’t feel romantic attraction the same way as those around you, it can seem puzzling. Maybe the idea of romance doesn’t interest you at all. Maybe you don’t experience “crushes” or are completely disinterested in love and romance. This doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It could be a sign that you’re open to exploring aromanticism or diving deeper into what this label could mean for you.
People who identify as aromantic don’t feel romantic attraction, or they experience it in different ways than other people. Aromantic people may be perfectly fulfilled in friendships or queerplatonic relationships. We’ve created this aromantic spectrum quiz to help you start understanding this aspect of yourself in a deeper way.
No quiz can determine your identity or tell you who you are. And aromanticism isn’t a “condition” to be diagnosed. But understanding where you fall on the aromantic spectrum (if at all) can help you start feeling more comfortable in your own skin.
How to use the aromantic quiz
This quiz was created by a licensed clinician based on current knowledge about aromantic identities and descriptions by the aromantic community themselves.
Being aromantic isn’t a diagnosis, nor is it a mental health condition or “problem.” This quiz is about helping you start to understand where you might fall on the spectrum, if at all.
When you’re answering the questions on this quiz, try to be as honest as possible. Don’t overthink your answers — simply choose the option that best describes you. Remember that the answers to this quiz don’t determine your identity or change who you are.
If you’re not sure how to answer some of these questions, you might consider asking friends or partners for their perspective. They might be able to help you remember things about past dating experiences or how you feel and behave in relationships.
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Nine-question aromantic test
The following quiz was made for anyone who’s curious about their relationship to romantic attraction. It can be a useful starting point to make sense of your feelings. With each question, take some time to consider whether it applies to you. If you’re not sure, or if it applies to you sometimes, answer “Maybe.”
Does the idea of falling in love feel odd or confusing to you?
Yes
No
Maybe
Do you tend to prefer physical intimacy rather than emotional connection?
Yes
No
Maybe
Does dating feel like something you do because you “have to” and not because you truly enjoy it?
Yes
No
Maybe
Do you have little interest in romance?
Yes
No
Maybe
When you like someone or are interested in them, does it tend to be more about a friendship than romantic interest?
Yes
No
Maybe
Are romantic gestures (like anniversaries, weddings, or spontaneous gift giving) uninteresting to you or even something you avoid?
Yes
No
Maybe
Do you tend to date less than others in your age range?
Yes
No
Maybe
Have partners told you they’d like you to be more romantic or affectionate (outside of sex)?
Yes
No
Maybe
Do you feel like other people experience relationships differently than you do?
Yes
No
Maybe
Quiz content written by Lolly Coleman, MS, LMFT.
Interpreting your results
If you answered mostly “yes,” you may be aromantic. If you answered mostly “no,” you may not be on the aromantic spectrum. If your answers were mostly “maybe” or were a mix of both yes and no, you may be exploring an aromantic identity or not align with it fully.
Next steps after the quiz
This identity isn’t something that a quiz can place on you, nor is it something that anyone can “diagnose” you with. Romantic orientation is something that only you can know for yourself after self-exploration. This quiz is only meant to help you start understanding yourself more deeply and shouldn’t be considered a definitive label or diagnosis.
Also, it’s important to keep in mind that being aromantic is only one identity on the aromantic-asexual (aro-ace) spectrum. According to the Aromantic-Spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy, some other identities on the spectrum include:
Asexual: Not feeling sexual attraction; Some asexual people do experience romantic attraction, while others don’t
Demiaromantic: Needing to feel a strong emotional connection in order to feel romantic attraction
Frayromantic: Feeling romantically attracted toward strangers, with the attraction fading as you get to know the other person
Aegorosexual: Liking the idea of romance (for example, reading romance novels) but not wanting to participate in it personally
Abroromantic: Fluid or changing romantic attraction to people of different gender expressions
Cupioromantic: Not feeling romantic attraction but still wanting to be in a romantic relationship
Quoiromantic: Having a difficult time understanding romantic love, feeling like these categories are nonsensical, or having a hard time knowing the difference between platonic love and romantic attraction
In addition, there could be other reasons why you might shy away from romantic relationships that don’t have to do with your romantic identity. For example, you might have a negative past experience that has made you feel insecure or uncomfortable in romantic relationships. The most important thing is to understand yourself so that you can move toward connections and relationships that you are comfortable with.
To learn more about aromanticism, it can help to talk to people who are in the community and willing to share their experiences. Working with a sex therapist can also help you explore your feelings about sex, romance, and dating. They can help you understand whether you might be on the aro-ace spectrum and provide support.
Aromantic people can form deep and meaningful connections. These can include friendships, familial bonds, and even partnerships. Their experience of connection simply isn’t driven by romantic attraction.
Ashley Ayala, LMFT
Clinical reviewer
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Saya Des Marais
Saya graduated with her Master in Social Work (MSW) with a concentration in mental health from the University of Southern California in 2010. She formerly worked as a therapist and motivational interviewing trainer in community clinics, public schools, mental health startups, and more.
Her writing has been featured in FORTUNE, GoodRX, PsychCentral, and dozens of mental health apps and therapy websites. Through both her clinical work and her personal OCD diagnosis, she’s learned the importance of making empathetic and accurate mental health content available online.
She lives in Portland, Oregon but you can find her almost just as often in Mexico or in her birthplace, Tokyo.
Ashley Ayala, LMFT
Ashley is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in generational healing and family dynamics. Ashley has worked in schools, clinics, and in private practice. She believes that people’s relationships, including our relationship with ourselves, greatly shape our experiences in life.
Ashley is committed to empowering others to show up authentically and deepen their self understanding. This passion stems from taking a critical lens on her own life story and doing inner healing. One of her favorite quotes is “Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.”
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