Wondering if you’re asexual? This quiz can help you explore

Asexuality describes people who experience little to no sexual attraction toward others. However, this doesn’t mean asexual people don’t experience romantic feelings. Romantic and sexual attraction are different. If any of this resonates for you, you might wonder if you’re asexual. 

Like other sexual orientations, asexuality exists on a spectrum. So don’t feel like you have to act according to a rigid definition of asexuality. There’s no right or wrong way to be asexual. 

This quiz is a good starting point to see if this sexuality resonates with your experience. If so, the next steps might include talking with a qualified mental health professional to help you understand your identity and sexuality on a deeper level.

Take the asexuality test

Asexual people may experience romantic attraction (if they’re romantic asexuals) and some may choose to have sex for various reasons, like wanting intimacy with a partner or having children. 

However, not all asexual people dislike sex; some may enjoy it, while others may feel indifferent or even repulsed by it. Asexuality is about lacking sexual attraction, not necessarily about sexual behavior or pleasure. 

Unlike people who abstain from sex due to religious or personal beliefs, asexuality is not a choice—it’s a valid sexual orientation.

This quiz can help you learn more about yourself, your desires, and if you fall on the asexuality spectrum. Even if you don’t identify as asexual, this quiz can be a resource to learn about people with different sexual and romantic experiences than yours.

Consider the following questions, keeping in mind what most describes you and your experiences:  

• Do you experience sexual desire toward people?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Has physical intimacy been difficult for you (or a point of contention) in relationships?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Do you find that you engage in sexual intimacy because you feel like you "should" rather than actually feeling an authentic desire for it?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Do you feel uninterested in having sex, even if you're emotionally close or in love with your partner?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Is it hard to relate to the way sex is portrayed in movies and television?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Do you feel like your interest in sex is different from other people?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Do you find it hard to relate to the way others describe their sexual desire or attraction toward others?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Do you have an inherent disinterest in sex (not that you're fearful due to other reasons, like trauma or pain)?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

• Would your ideal relationship have minimal to no sexual intimacy?

  • Yes

  • No

  • Sometimes

Quiz content written by Lolly Coleman, MS, LMFT.

What your quiz results mean

If you answered “yes” to most or all questions, you’re probably asexual. It might feel validating to receive these quiz results — especially if you’ve felt confused, isolated, or frustrated because of mismatched sexual desires with your current or previous partner(s). 

If you answered “mostly no” to most or all questions, you’re probably not asexual. But if you answered mostly “sometimes,” you might fall somewhere on the asexuality spectrum. For instance, you might relate to other orientations like: 

• Graysexuality: Graysexuality is related to asexuality. But people who are graysexual feel sexual attraction rarely and less intensely than people who routinely experience sexual attraction. Graysexual people might feel sexual attraction but don’t want to follow through on their desires. 

• Demisexuality: Someone who’s demisexual can experience sexual attraction only after an emotional bond is formed. It might take months or years for a connection to build. Even then, you might not desire sexual intimacy very often. 

Our quiz was created by a member of our clinical team who’s also a practicing therapist. While your results don’t substitute therapy, they can be helpful information to share with a therapist. 

What to do with your test results

Your quiz results may help you feel more confident in your sexual orientation. Or you might have more questions. That’s OK!

Sexuality can shift over time, and it might take some time to figure out what’s true for you. Talking with a mental health professional about your potential sexual orientation can be a helpful step. A therapist can support you in more deeply processing your experiences and feelings. This might be what you need to find an answer. 

Journaling, in addition to therapy, may be another useful tool. It can allow you time to explore thoughts that may not come up in a conversation. You may also not feel comfortable sharing everything with a therapist right away or at all.  

If you want to further explore asexuality, reading books and watching media on the topic could deepen your knowledge. Additionally, joining asexuality groups or meetups — whether online or in person — can be a fun way to help bring you closer to the right identity for you. 

Clinican's take

A common misconception is that being asexual means you don’t experience any kind of attraction or can’t have close relationships. In reality, asexual people simply don’t experience sexual attraction but they can still have strong emotional, romantic, or platonic connections, and lead fulfilling social and intimate lives.

Ashley Ayala, LMFT

Clinical reviewer

Find care with Rula

Being asexual means you don’t experience any, or only a little, sexual attraction. But even if you think this description fits you, you might not be entirely sure. Our quiz can help you figure out where you fall on the asexuality spectrum. A therapist can support you in exploring even further.  

At Rula, we’re committed to delivering a comprehensive behavioral health experience that helps people feel seen and understood so they can get back to feeling their best. 

Rula makes it easier to find a licensed therapist or psychiatric provider who accepts your insurance so you don’t have to choose between affordable care and excellent care. With a diverse network of more than 15,000 providers, 24/7 crisis support, and appointments available as soon as tomorrow, we’re here to help you make progress — wherever you are on your mental health journey.