Key Takeaways
- Sexuality, including sexual orientation, relates to who you’re romantically or sexually attracted to. For many people, it can also involve how they experience love, desire, and emotional connection — but these experiences can vary widely.
- Sexuality can shift as you grow, have new experiences, and learn more about yourself.
- Questioning sexuality is a natural part of self-discovery. Taking our quiz can help you explore your feelings and gain a clearer understanding of your sexual identity.
Most people aren’t born with a clear understanding of their sexuality. It’s something that often develops and becomes clearer over time through your experiences and relationships. And it’s completely normal to have questions about your sexuality. Our sexual orientation quiz gives you a private, judgment-free way to explore your feelings, attractions, and identity, including who you’re drawn to emotionally, romantically, and physically.
This quiz is a way to reflect on your feelings and learn more about your sexuality. It’s not a diagnosis, and there are no right or wrong answers. The goal is to help you understand yourself better. It can also provide a great starting point if you want to talk to a therapist who can support you, answer questions, and help you explore your sexuality without judgment.
How this sexuality quiz works
Sexual orientation quizzes aren’t meant to label you or give you a final answer. They can help you explore your feelings, experiences, and attractions in a thoughtful way. If you’re feeling confused or anxious, talking with a trusted friend or a therapist can help you sort out your thoughts.
To get the most out of this quiz, answer honestly, take your time with each question, and try not to stress about the results. Keep in mind that it’s just one way to learn more about your sexuality.
By reflecting on your past and how you feel now, this quiz can highlight patterns of attraction. Just remember, sexuality can evolve over time, and no quiz can fully define who you are.
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1. When you develop a crush, who is it usually focused on?
A. People with a different gender(s) than mine
B. People with the same gender as mine
C. People of any gender
D. I don’t usually get crushes
2. What kind of romantic relationships feel most natural or exciting to you?
A. Romantic relationships with people of a different gender(s)
B. Romantic relationships with people of the same gender
C. Romantic relationships with people of more than one gender
D. I’m not interested in romance
3. How do you experience sexual attraction?
A. Only toward people of a different gender(s)
B. Only toward people of the same gender
C. Toward people regardless of gender
D. I don’t feel sexual attraction
4. If you imagine a future partner, which gender(s) do you picture?
A. Someone with a different gender(s) than mine
B. Someone with the same gender as mine
C. Any gender; it depends on the person
D. I don’t really imagine having a partner
5. Which statement feels most true to you?
A. I’m only attracted to people of a different gender(s)
B. I’m only attracted to people of the same gender
C. I’m attracted to people of more than one gender
D. I rarely or never feel sexual or romantic attraction
6. How do you feel when you see romantic or sexual relationships in the media?
A. I relate most to straight couples
B. I relate most to same-gender couples
C. I relate to all kinds of couples
D. I usually don’t relate to romance in media
7. Have you ever had a crush on someone of the same gender?
A. No, never
B. Yes, often
C. Yes, and I’ve had crushes on other genders too
D. I’m not sure I’ve had crushes at all
8. How would you feel being in a romantic or sexual relationship with someone of a different gender(s)?
A. Comfortable, excited — it feels right
B. Uncomfortable or uninterested
C. I’d be open to it, depending on the person
D. I wouldn’t be interested in that kind of relationship with anyone
9. What describes your experience best?
A. I’ve only ever felt real attraction to people of a different gender(s) than mine
B. I’ve only ever felt real attraction to people of the same gender as mine
C. My attraction can’t be boxed into one category
D. I feel little to no attraction in general
Quiz content written by Lolly Coleman, MS, LMFT.
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Scoring
Count how many times you answered A, B, C, and D. Then match your most frequent response to the suggestions below. If there’s a tie or close mix, we’ll describe two possible orientations to explore.
- Mostly A answers (6 or more)
You might identify as heterosexual (straight)- Your answers suggest you feel romantic or sexual attraction mostly toward people of a different gender from your own.
- Mostly B answers (6 or more)
You might identify as gay or lesbian- Your answers indicate you feel romantic or sexual attraction mostly toward people of the same gender as yourself.
- Mostly C answers (6 or more)
You might identify as bisexual, pansexual, or queer- Your answers show openness to attraction beyond one gender, which aligns with identities that acknowledge fluid or multigender attraction.
- Mostly D answers (6 or more)
You might identify as asexual, aromantic, or graysexual- Your responses suggest you may not experience sexual or romantic attraction frequently, if at all — and that’s completely valid.
How to think about your results
Your quiz results might point you toward a sexual orientation label that reflects how you experience attraction. Whether the result feels like a good fit or just a starting point, take your time. Your identity is valid, and it’s OK if it evolves.
If your results don’t resonate with you, or if there wasn’t a clear trend in your answers, know that it’s OK to be questioning your sexual orientation. Your identity is still real and valid even if it doesn’t fit into a neat label.
Here’s some additional guidance if you had a mix of answers:
- A & B mix: You may be exploring between a straight or gay/lesbian identity or still understanding patterns of attraction.
- B & C mix: You might align with bisexual, pansexual, or fluid identities.
- C & D mix: You might resonate with demisexual, graysexual, or questioning experiences.
Why is it important to understand your sexuality?
Sexuality is personal and can be complicated. It doesn’t always fit into clear labels, and that’s OK. You might already know how you feel but still be unsure how to share that with others or live in a way that resonates with you.
Understanding your sexuality can help you feel more confident, comfortable, and connected to who you are. It can improve your relationships, lift your self-esteem, and clear up confusion or doubt.
A quiz won’t give you all the answers, but it can help you understand your feelings and remind you that you’re not alone. You don’t have to have everything figured out right away.
After taking the quiz, use the results to think about your identity. Talk to someone you trust, like a friend, a support group, or a therapist, who can listen and support you without bias.
One way I help clients explore their sexuality is through open, judgment-free conversations where they can share their feelings and ask questions at their own pace. This supportive space allows them to reflect on their experiences and emotions, helping them better understand their identity without pressure or labels.
Find care with Rula
If you have questions about your sexuality, you’re not alone. While some people know how they identify early on, others discover it over time. Talking to a therapist can give you a safe space to explore your feelings and find clarity without pressure or judgment.
At Rula, we’re committed to delivering a comprehensive behavioral health experience that helps people feel seen and understood so they can get back to feeling their best.
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About the author
Linda Childers
Linda is an award-winning medical writer with experience writing for major media outlets, health companies, hospitals, and both consumer and trade print and digital outlets.
Her articles have appeared in the Washington Post, USA Today, WebMD, AARP, Brain+Life, HealthyWomen.org, The Rheumatologist, California Health Report, Everyday Health, HealthCentral, and many other media outlets.
While juggling the responsibilities of being part of the “sandwich generation” and caring for both her toddler son and terminally ill mother, a nurse friend encouraged her to seek therapy, which helped her to learn coping strategies and manage her depression. Linda hopes her work will help to destigmatize mental health conditions and encourage others to get the help they need.
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